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[ScorpioSub]

I don't know how you feel about it, but I've always believed that a good way to understand something is to try it...

That is not to say that everyone I've ever bottomed to has bottomed, but I'd say that most have probably given it a shot, even if it's just having someone wack them a few times with toy they're considering buying/learning, just to get an idea of what it's like to be on the receiving end.

If you're not interested in or comfortable with that, I'd say just talk to him. I'm sure you do that anyway, but talking about what he gets out of it is always an option.

I'm certainly willing to answer questions, but all I can offer are my experiences/opinions and any random things I have picked up from other people I know.

[littleMiss]

see, right now we live three hours apart, that is, until december. So, experiencing is a little difficult. I have been on the bottom for vanilla sex, is it similar or different? Really, its as much an intellectual as it is a female question to me.

[ScorpioSub]

Well i didn't mean necessarily bottoming to him... LOL... Of course it's something you'd probably want to discuss with him...

Bottoming and why people do it is such a huge topic and area of speculation and disagreement. Clearly there are physiologic and psychological aspects to it and I think that what each person gets out of it is slightly different. There's talk about endorphins, about the connections between pain and pleasure, and all kind of stuff...

I have my theories, like everyone else, and it interests me from an intelectual standpoint.

The truth of the matter, though, is that in the conext of play I don't really care why it feels good or I enjoy it... Just that I do.

Hey, at least my shrink didn't think I was crazy for it. Neither of them (one was a psychiatrist with drug pas the other a shrink who did the talky stuff) were on the "lists" of kink friendly doctors, but both were professional and accepting about it. Of course they asked questions about it, wanted to understand what I got out of it and how I got into it because that tells them something about my motivation for doing it, etc. Both decided I wasn't crazy though, so at least I know people are full of shit when they tell me I'm sick cause I'm kinky. LOL