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AlderTheKitty · Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 11

some of us have been kinky before where where of the age of consent i for instance have had the kink since before i was old enough to have sex

this made for an intresting time growing up feeling like i had no one else who felt the same way and having no one to teach me what is proper i ended up in two bad relations ships in the last 15 month i now have some wonderfull friends and would even be willing to share what i went through to help dispel the myth that kink can only exist after someone is a legal adult whcih often pisses me off

Mr Gone · Joined: 18 Jan 2006 Posts: 10

Certainly kink can exist before 18. But no adult should participate in any form of sex with a minor--whether or not intercourse takes place. I was lucky enough at 13 to find someone to share some bondage and light S&M.

If you can't find someone in your age group you can certainly do a lot on your own. But never cross the adult/child age barrier.

David

AlderTheKitty · Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 11

yes but it is awfully hard to find someone who will know how to do things safly and know when enough is enough which happend twice to me one thought to do a kidnap scean you really had to kidnap someone and wanted me to help her do so the second bad one thought it would be fun to mistreat me to the point where i started cutting my arms when e er something bothered me

the thing is often those under 28 tend to live in fantisy rather then reality

one girl though her bf could fuck her cunt with a knife blade and put a badnage on it and she would be fine. also i allways had a feeling that i was isolated because i didn't want to risk getting someone in legal trouble which the second top to hurt me did by forcing me to lie about my age so i could go to a munch. eventualy they found out about her abuse and whent to great lengths to help me and because of that i now have about six good friends who realy care about me

but offten the message i get is wow your so young and you all ready know what you want well i have known that for 3 years

satansprincess · Joined: 06 Mar 2006 Posts: 1

I've known that I'm into kink for about 4 years now, and I've just turned 17. The hard part is trying to tell a 17 or 18 year old guy that you want him kneeling at your feet and calling you mistress without him either laughing in your face or running scared.

I have a basic 'rule' that at the moment, I will only share my 'kink' with those who I completly trust and are in a relationship with (and by that I don't mean a week!). I've decided that if I'm trusting them with my happiness, then I can probably afford to trust them with what I like too. And so far, so good.

I think it is very important to be mature about it and think things through. If you're going out with an 18 yr old devout catholic who prays after every kiss, he's probably not going to take your lifestyle very well, so you'll have to make some decisions and sacrifices.

As long as you keep yourself safe and be intelliegent about the choices you make, you should be fine.

Domdra9on · Joined: 02 Mar 2006 Posts: 11 Location: New Hampshire

Its a shame this society has become so uptight that even sharing information is considered taboo. People are who they are and trying to be someone else only leads to unfulfilling relationships and in the long ru divorce.

At least one has the internet now so one can search for information privately.
I would suggest if one is near a college or university see if they happen to have a TNG BDSM group. Though one still needs to eb of age, these groups are geared specifically towards young people

Devoted · Joined: 23 Mar 2006 Posts: 6 Location: NC

I feel your pain; but mostly because of the discrepancy between different states and groups. I agree that information should be more freely available, but it's hard to translate to many people that []telling[/i] an adolescent about kink does not equal doing said kinky things with the minor.

I was playing around with kink for 4 years before I turned 21. Yet all of my local groups were 21-and-up ONLY. I had to restrict my curiosity to online research, and only now that I've just turned 21 can I start finding friends in my community. Now, I was of legal age to do pretty much everything, and yet I couldn't even go to a social lunch. That irritates me, despite the fact that I understand their reasoning. Perhaps if I could find a local TNG group it wouldn't be so bad.
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littleMiss · Joined: 28 Feb 2006 Posts: 57

hate to say it hun, but no matter how old you really are, you'll be stuck hearing about the "you're so young!!" bit until your mid 20's. I'm 21 and still getting it, though i'm legal in all countries, states, and otherwise. With regards to learning about it, this is definitely a good place to start, though the actual hands- on (or off, however you like it) experience is going to be tricky. Once you get to college, if you go to college, many american universities have BDSM clubs, though many of them are filled with the strictly bedroom bondage types, that do not necessarily think that it is a full lifestyle, or just don't realize how deep it runs in them. The best thing I can say is congrats for figuring yourself out before many others out there have. That in itself will take you further in the search. I'd suggest googling things for online info if at all possible, and if you can find someone willing to just talk about what some of the stuff is, by all means, go for it! If you have a larger city nearby, visit that wonderful thing we call a library, they do actually have books on this. Also, if I ever get a hold of a "basics of BDSM" style book, i'll post where to find it.

Lasher · Joined: 19 Apr 2006 Posts: 19 Location: Austin, TX

Well, I knew I was kinky as a teenager and that was before the web so you can imagine how difficult it was to find information back then!

Even so, I learned, slowly, and can relate to being the young person at the parties where the median age is some 20 years older. Heck, I've been active in the scene for 15 years now and still, when I'm at a kink event or hanging out with my friends, odds are that I'm the youngest in the room. It's not something that's easy for those of us who "found the lifestyle early", and doesn't get easier, especially if you're single.

On the basics resources, the books that came out when I was still young that I learned a lot from were SM101 and Learning the Ropes. Screw the Roses is also a good intro primer book with lots of photos for those who really are starting from square one. I'd thow in On the Safe Edge, the Topping Book and the Bottoming Book and you've got a comprehensive learning library.

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AlderTheKitty · Joined: 23 Feb 2006 Posts: 11

yes i know that feeling i also feel that if my kid was in to the lifestyle that they would be able to find someone to watch out for them as i have now

gah it was like a year ago or more even i started goijg to a munch with my ex and i wanted to stop going cause i wasn't old enough and she forced me to lie about it and that was one of the first things she did to abuse me and when she realised that they would protect me it's like no i don't wanna go and we're not going back i am lucky that i did do that because i was on track to become suicidal because of the abuse and they helped me realize that i was worth more

the biggest danger is that for teens intrested in the life style is that useualy the first one they meet is abusive and will take advantage of both they're lack of exposure to the lifestyle from being isolated because of age and allot of teens are vary fucking nieve and think that every one they meet is gonna be the one for them any the preditors look for that

now i have a good group of close friends and a few aquaintances from one of the partys in toronto and few pen pals

and i would say it is more important to have friends in the lifestyle most of the time then it is to have a partner because with out friends you are helpless

ScorpioSub · Joined: 09 Apr 2006 Posts: 83

I understand the challenges of finding the scene at a young age. I began attending events in my area as soon as I reached the required age and I am still one of the youngest people at most events I attend.

Please don't take this the wrong way... It is not meant to be an attack on you, but rather a helpful suggestion.

One of the ways to deal with some of the agre related issues is to come across as a well informed, inteligent, mature individual. Perhaps the way you write online is different than the way you write or speak in other settings, but I have noticed some things that you might want to think about. Your posts are full of words that are impropperly used and lack punctuation. Those kinds of errors and/or careless presentation of your ideas make it harder for people, particularly older people, to take you seriously.

This is something that applies to all young people, myself included, and I think it is important. If you take the time and energy to present yourself and your ideas appropriately it gives you more credibility. I think it goes a long way toward fitting into a group in which you are significantly younger than the average individual.

Becoming involved with organizations when possible, through volunteering or other methods, is also a good way to demonstrate your dedication and reliability. It's also a good way to make friends and get to know the "movers and shakers" in your local community.

Just my 2 cents. Hopefully they're helpful. If not, please feel free to disregard what I have said.